According to a study by Northwestern University professor Daniel Molden, married couples who practice denial in how they perceive each other may have happier marriages.
Or maybe better stated the other way, couples who are brutally honest in their assessments of one another may be less ... blissful.
Here's the way columnist Meredith Small characterized the study:
"The typical pattern starts with falling head-over-heels for someone, with all its heart-thumping, starry-eyed craziness, and it takes awhile before that fog dissipates and the real object of desire comes into focus. Often, the truth doesn't hit until after marriage when the real person, warts and all, wakes up next to you in bed wearing a wedding ring."
To better quote the study: "What really stands out is the idea that satisfaction within any relationship is based on perception rather than actual fact, and therein lies the rub of not only love, but also of living with someone on intimate terms."
Or as I like to think, truth is in the eye of the beholder and we all have our own truths ! Sometimes wearing rose colored glasses is not a badd thing!
So is it rose colored glasses for you or the brutal truth machine?